Tuesday, March 31, 2009

So I'm back

And I really don't know what to say.

Life is not supposed to be this way.

I was not supposed to go be menachem avel (pay a condolence call) to my 37 year old friend who just lost her 14 year old daughter.

I wish that I had some wise words to say that might give some clarity as to why this tragedy occurred.

But I don't. I really, really don't.

What amazed me the most yesterday is that Eli was comforting those who came to comfort her. Eli who was going through the most unimaginable thing a parent can go through, was stroking other people's backs and telling them that it was going to be ok.

My friend Eli is an amazing person and mother.

All I can do is wish her comfort and strength.


FunkyFrum said...

I lost a cousin of mine when he was 17 in a bad car accident and I just remember the rabbi saying at the time "It is awful, but B"H it only took C 17 years to complete his mission here on earth so he could go to Gan Eden. The rest of us will take 70 years or more! Think of all the extra time he will have at the table of angels." At the time I wanted to smack the hat right off that rabbi, as time has gone on, though, I realized that maybe it is a blessing in a way that a person's soul joins the heavenly table earlier as some say the neshama hates being tied here to earth. It still sucks either way, but it is the best I got. Sorry.

elana said...

eli sounds like an amazingly strong person. im sure she appreciated you traveling so far to see her.

rickismom said...

Look, we just DON'T KNOW and DON'T UNDERSTAND because we are NOT G-d. That simple.

Estie said...

You're such good friend to go, and I'm sure it meant so much to her. Hamakom Yenachem.

Rach said...

Sometimes there is just nothing to say.............
People's strength in times like this amazes me though

Anonymous said...

I went too...I've been going to help them out for the past 2.5 years. Went tonight, even though it's right before Pesach. I go because they are so strong, they give me so much chizuk and put everything in perspective. I dreamed about Chavi and she was happy and laughing...she's in a better place now.